tequilababe09's Datingish

you can turn off the sun, but i'm still gonnna shine :)

Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:13:41 GMT

Wow, sorry I haven't written lately. Things have been beyond crazy & I really haven't been able to get online this past summer. Now, I have a laptop & all the computers at school, so it's much easier. Anyway... speaking of school, I LOVE COLLEGE! J & I both started here at CC (although we are both hoping to transfer to actual universities after the 2nd year or so) and we really love it. It's a lot more different than high school, and really, we couldn't be happier. Also, we've moved out into our own apartment. That's right, I got my own place now :) and boy, is it ever liberating to be out on my own making my own decisions and doing my own thing. Now, don't get me wrong. J & I depend on each other a bit, but for the most part, we are pretty independent people & I think we're both really enjoying our independence!

Other than all this, J & mines relationship has been doing pretty well. Yeah, we still fight of course. But for the most part, it's good. really good. & we both believe that us moving out of my moms house has helped that A LOT.

Well, I have to go to class soon but i'll try to update this thing more often. I mean, much more has happened than just what's above (including me being a bit unfaithful... but, like Ross says, "WE WERE ON A BREAK" :/) more about that later though..

Love to all,

Oh, Happy Day!

Sat, 21 Feb 2009 20:55:00 GMT

So, I've been pretty busy lately. I really haven't been able to write. What with Valentines Day, my one year anniversary (gasp!...more about that later), the boyfriend, my friends, school, prepping for exams, work, cooking, babysitting my nephew, spending quality time with my sister, and having the ever anticipated family drama, it's been kind of crazy. But I figured since I got out of work early today, I'd write a little bit.

So... last Saturday was Valentines Day and, also, my one year anniversary with my boyfriend. I was SO psyched :). He gave me his car while he went to work from 11 a.m. - 3 p.m. & I got all the supplies I needed, and I immediately went to vacuum out his car. It looked very nice & when I went to pick him up, his car was decorated (on the inside) with little notes telling him how much i love him, etc. Then, I got out of the car and held up a huge sign that read "Be My Valentine?". He said yes, of course. Then, I proceeded to give him a really sweet Valentine I made him with a poem that I had written myself. He absolutely loved it! I also showed him the brownies I made him in the shape of a heart with the words "J & L 4ever" & "Happy One Year Baby!" They were delicious :).
Well, we got our hotel room and came back to my house so I could get my dress and make-up and everything to get ready. Then, we went back to the hotel and got ready for dinner. I wore a pinkish/purplish strapless dress cut down to about the knee with a pair of pointy black heels. He wore a gorgeous blue dress shirt and nice black slacks with a nice belt and shoes.
After going back and forth on a couple restaurants, we finally decided on one called Shanghai Ichiban, a Japanese/Chinese restaurant that is absolutely GORGEOUS on the inside and out. They have 2 sides. Japanese, where it's Hibatchi style and they make your food in front of you. And Chinese, where it's more of a romantic candle-lit feel. We actually wanted the Japanese side but it was all booked so we took the Chinese. I'm glad we did though. We had the most amazinggg time ever. The food was delicious and we really enjoyed it, especially because we both hadn't eaten all day and we were absolutely starving! But mostly because it was just so damn good! Haha. We joked and laughed and boy, I'm so in love with him. It's crazy.
So after dinner, we had to take a dressed-up trip to Meijer to buy some condoms, naturally. And then we ventured back to the hotel. We got changed and laid on the bed together. And started watching "The Break-up". Now, usually he doesn't watch chick flicks so I was pretty happy. We smoked a cigarette and popped the tops on our raspberry ice wine coolers.
Then, when the movie was almost over, I got a phone call from my best friend, T. Her boyfriend had pretty much ditched her for a party at a college nearby. So I invited her to come chill with us for the night. I mean, who wants to be alone on Valentines Day? And I felt bad for her. So J & I made love before she got there. Then, the three of us spent a happy, drunken, smiley, fun night together. It was perfect :).

I'm not gonna lie though. J & I haven't exactly been perfect. Not even close. Actually two days ago, we got in a pretty big fight. Yesterday, it turned into something even bigger. But the funny (not funny haha) thing is that no matter how bad we fight (and believe me, they get pretty bad), we are always okay in the end. No matter what. But we both agreed that we definitely need to make some changes to make our relationship stronger.
In fact, he actually wrote me a letter this morning that he gave me when he picked me up from work a couple hours ago. It is the absolute sweetest letter I have ever read or seen or gotten before. It's pretty much about everything he loves about me, how much he loves me, the things he is going to change, what he's going to do better, etc.
It was just the best thing he could've done. And for a while now, I've been wanting him to tell me how much he loves me and express his feelings to me (because he never does) and now he finally has. He said in the letter that it's easier to do in writing. I didn't know that though because he usually hates to write. Lol. To each their own I guess.
Anyway, I know we'll be okay. We both have all the love in the world for each other. And I think we're both maturing a lot together and I believe that's a good thing. I just can't wait to move out of here and in with him! Lol.

Okay, well I have to go take care of baby T, my sweet little nephew.
Hopefully, I shall write more soon.

Hope you all are doing well. Take care!
♥ LA

...Oh & P.S... I GOT ACCEPTED TO GRCC! I knew I would for the most part, but I'm still excited. YAYY!!!! :)

Self-Proclaimed Party Girls

Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:12:17 GMT

Well, today was a pretty good day, but I have to say that I am beyond excited for this weekend! See, last weekend, I thought my best friend, S, and I had made plans for Saturday night but it turned out that there was a miscommunication. She had other plans that I guess she just couldn't get out of so, needless to say, I was very disappointed. J & I ended up just getting drunk and watching movies all night, which was very fun but I still wish I could hang out with my bestie. We hadn't hung out in like two weeks, which is very unusual for us because we hang out every weekend and during the week. Our schedules were just clashing I guess.

Anyway, we have rock-solid plans for Saturday night and I am totally excited! We used to really GO OUT alllll the time. We would coordinate our outfits and jewelry and wear our make-up super cute, then go out pretty much party hopping with our crew of boys. It was beyond fun!! But lately, we've been pretty much on the down-low about things especially because we're both on probation. But this weekend, all bets are off. We're getting totally wasted and going party hopping, just like old times. She came over yesterday and was all like "Omg let's pick out our outfits for Saturday & we both have to wear these cute hoop earrings and do our make-up really good!" Lol. It made me sooo happy. I miss her a lot!

Well, anyway, this post seems kind of pointless to pretty much everyone but me. I'm just so happy. && I have a field trip tomorrow so I get to miss all my classes and it's excused. I'm going to Aquinas College for an Accounting Seminar, which I'm pretty psyched about. :) I want to be an accountant. That's what I'm going to college for. Oh, and I turned in my GR Comm. College application yesterday after school. I really hope I get accepted. I'm sure I will, though.

Almost time for me to graduate & move out! About 3 1/2 months :)
And almost time for V-Day & my one year anniversary :) YAYY.

Hope everyone had a wonderful day!
♥ LA

Should I believe him??

Wed, 04 Feb 2009 19:28:11 GMT

So last night, I was sitting here waiting for my boyfriend and my best friend to come pick me up. Out of nowhere, this girl who my boyfriend used to be friends with (his best friend liked her so they all hung out a couple times) and who I'm supposedly "cool" with messaged me on Myspace, asking me if I was with my boyfriend. I messaged her back asking why?? Well, after that, I left with my BF and best friend to go celebrate my other good friends birthday.

When I arrived back home last night this girl had messaged me back. Well, we went back and forth, but the point is that she said she wanted to know where my BF was because she wanted to know if he wanted to smoke weed with her because he had done it with her the night before. At that point, I was like WTF??

So I called my BF and asked him if that was true. He swore on his grandmothers grave (the most important person ever to him) that it was not true. He said that her and her guy friend had come over asking him if he wanted to smoke with them. He said no, and they left. Simple as that.

Now, I trust my boyfriend. I have no reason to NOT trust him. He tells me the truth at all times (unless he's joking or it's a surprise for me or something like that) and he's even told me stuff before that most guys wouldn't tell their girlfriends (not bad stuff just like.. well, idk how to explain it but not bad). So I believe him and I think that she's just trying to piss me off because I think she thought I was acting rude when I asked why she wanted to talk to my BF. Also, I think she was upset that he didn't smoke with her the night before (because he is usually the one who gets it or goes to get it because he's the only one with a car), he said no.

I told my BF that I don't like her. I never really have, she's kind of a bitch and her voice is REALLY annoying. Now, I especially don't like her because she was trying to cuss me out or something, which is dumb. He has promised me that he will not talk to her or hang out with her ever again. This is not hard to do because they never even see or talk to each other barely at all and if they do, it's because she is asking him to smoke with her for no reason. They haven't hung out or seen or talked to each other for about 3 or 4 months now. The only reason they used to hang out was because of his best friend liking her and he has now moved.

Well, I really would just like some opinions on this. Should I believe my loyal, trustworthy BF? Or the skank on Myspace?
I think the choice is obvious but I would just like an outsiders take on this please.

Thanks! :)
♥ LA

Denny's Free Grand Slams!

Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:51:07 GMT

...definitely the highlight of my day :)

Ugh, I was sooo fucking tired today!! I could barely get out of bed. I am so worn out. Between school and work and probation and boy and just..everything, it's been quite tiring lately. But today, Denny's had free Grand Slams, so of course, J, our friend, and I skipped 4th hour & went to Denny's. The line was pretty long, but we ended up waiting for only about 20 or 30 minutes. We just stood outside, smoked a cigarette, talked, laughed, and met up with other people from our school. It was fun. The breakfast was definitely fucking delicious. Then, we went back to school for the last hour of the day. Now, I'm at home, but I should be going out later to celebrate one of my good friends birthdays. She's 17 today :)

Hmmm.. I'm thinking I want a change in my life. Possibly in my appearance. Idk what though. Well, I know that I would love to lose some weight. It's really hard for me to actually stick to a diet though. J works at a fast food place, as does one of my best friends in the world, and we barely have any food at home. Fast food is always quick & easy &, for me, usually cheap because I always get a discount or just free food. Haha. Anyway, I'm trying to cut pop out of my diet. And then slowly but surely, try to eat healthier. I don't want to label it as a "diet" though because that makes it sound way too strict for me. I should exercise more too. It sucks because I'm always so damn tired so I never have the energy or motivation. Ugh, I feel like I'm stuck in a rut when it comes to my look. The worst part is I am totally broke. Rawr. I can't wait until I'm done paying my fines and off probation and I get my taxes back. Then, I definitely won't be broke. Lol.

Well, I hope everyone is having a wonderful day.

♥ LA

Am I Wrong For Being Disappointed??

Sun, 01 Feb 2009 23:13:46 GMT

Ok here's the story...

My boyfriend is generally a very sweet guy. One time, he just randomly showed up with roses. He picks me up from work whenever he can, and always gives me rides whenever I need them. He comforts me when I get sad. And although we fight, he doesn't ever disrespect me.
While I don't have a reason to complain about my wonderful boyfriend, everyone has their flaws. J, my boyfriend, is a smart guy, he really is, but when it comes to some things, he can be somewhat...forgetful, I guess.

This past Christmas, I obviously bought him christmas presents. Not just one, either. I got him a Michigan State sweatshirt & t-shirt (his favorite college fball team), a fitted hat (he's been wanting one for so long), a pair of fleece gloves, small speakers for his iPod, two DVDs of movies he really likes, a Nike drawstring bag, & to top it all off, I found on Ebay a throwback Philadelphia Eagles Terrell Owens jersey (that's the gift he REALLY wanted, he loves Owens and the Eagles!!). So, I thought I got him great gifts & I was really super excited about Christmas because I wanted him to open his gifts. The thing is, I love buying stuff for the people I love. It makes me so happy!!

So, J & I both worked on Christmas Eve but when I got off, he was there to pick me up (I was also having family issues at the time and whenever I do, he's ALWAYS there for me!). Well, we came back to my house & I decided that was a good time to open gifts. On the way to my house, he said he had something for me in his car. So I started looking, anxious to see what he got me. It ended up being in the pocket of his sweatshirt. It was a glass coaster in the shape of a heart with the words "faith, hope, love, loyalty"..and others on it in beautiful cursive writing. He gave me one coaster & he kept the other so we could each have our own in our apartment when we move out together. I thought that was super sweet. He said that those words reminded him of me. Cute, right?? :)

We got to my house & he proceeded to open his gifts, which he absolutely LOVED!
I didn't want to pry, but I coyly asked where my gift was. He told me that it hadn't come in the mail yet but he really wanted to tell he what it was. So he did. He had gotten me a pink & white Brett Favre jersey. He's my favorite football player and Green Bay is my favorite pro fball team, so I was super excited!!
Well, it's now February & it still hasn't come in the mail. I asked him about it & he insisted he paid but on Ebay it said he hadn't. So today, I got really curious & decided to look on his bank statements (he let me have his password & everything to see how much money he had & to see if he had paid it or not). Well, he had not paid. Then, I looked on his Ebay account and he hasn't ever even won a Brett Favre jersey at all. He had been looking at them, but never won one of them.

Well, now I have to admit that I'm really disappointed. I got him so much stuff for Christmas & all I got was a coaster. I mean, Christmas Eve, he did take me out to dinner at Buffalo Wild Wings (our favorite restaurant) and let me have the shot of Peppermint Schnapps we were offered, but I just got so excited about the jersey and now I'm let down. He never even won it! How do you mess that up?? I just don't get it.

So, I just really want to know, do I have a right to be disappointed?? I don't want to sound selfish or like I feel that I deserve another gift, but I don't know.
I am really curious to see what he's going to get me for Valentines Day, which happens to be our one year anniversary as well. I guess that will be the determining factor. I mean, we have a great relationship & he does stuff for me ALL the time (I do stuff for him too) and he's currently lending me about $50.00 to pay off something. But I just was looking forward to having that jersey, especially after I got him great gifts that he loved and more than a couple.

Just want some opinions on what you think & how you think I should go about talking to J about this whole thing. Thank you so much!

♥ LA

A "Good" Relationship

Sun, 01 Feb 2009 21:36:58 GMT

I hear many people say "oh, they have a good relationship", but what really classifies as a good relationship? Is it having sex a lot, communicating well, honesty through and through, loyalty, faithfulness, or all of those things combined?? I've seen many different types of relationships. I've seen relationships where the couples fight about stupid things, but when it comes down to it, they love each other, they're always honest and loyal and faithful to one another, they communicate wonderfully, and have amazing sex. Does that classify as a "good" relationship, even though they fight?

Basically, I'm just wondering what YOU consider a good relationship, in all aspects of it? Physical, emotional, and mental. Everything. What things do couples do that prove that they love each other, just small, daily tasks?

...What qualities in a relationship classify that particular relationship as a "good" one??

♥LA

Off Topic, But...

Sun, 01 Feb 2009 03:33:44 GMT

This is a post that is not even about dating. Nowhere near. And while I apologize, I think this is totally necessary, especially because I just feel quite annoyed by it.

Okay so everyone, listen up!! If you own a credit card, you need to know how to use it. I don't care if your 18, 45, or 82. You should know how to swip it, which way the freakin card goes, and how to enter your PIN and press yes, and to answer any of the following questions that the credit card machine may ask you. You need to learn that not all credit card machines are alike, they haven't grasped the concept that it would be easier to make a generic credit card machine. Well, boo-fucking-hoo! Get used to it! This is, after all, the 21st Century!

Also, one of the possibly rudest things that you could possibly do while checking out your purchases is talking on your cell phone. ("But like oh my gosh I just had to know if Megan and Josh were still going out because it's like they're just like the hottest fricking couple in school.") No one cares. The cashier does not want to listen to you annoyingly and loudly talk about whatever it is that you may be talking about. I don't think you're cool because you have a friend you can talk to on the phone in the checkout line. And I also don't appreciate you asking me to repeat myself about 40 times because the person on the other line won't stop talking. That's just plain stupid. Granted, there are some times when it is necessary, but very, very, very few. Most people don't do it for necessity, they do it because they could care less.

Another thing, when something is priced at a certain designated price that you just happen to not like, do NOT take your frustration out on the employees of that store. ("Oh well, why is this $80 but these are only $40? That's so stupid. Why do you do that?") Um, reality check, we don't make the prices, we just go by them! In most companies, the corporate office decides on the prices, not the poor employees who are, coinsidently, the ones who have to listen to you bitch and whine over a price tag. My philosophy is that if you don't like it, don't buy it and don't waste your time complaining about it. Chances are, it's not gonna get you anywhere.

ONE LAST THING: DO NOT treat employees at any retail store or fast food place like slaves. They are not slaves, not even close. Yes, they may have a crappy job (not all, but some), but at least they're doing what they can to make ends meet. And in most cases, they are doing their best. Don't give them crap because of something that is the companies fault. Respect them. It's the least any of us could do, really.

Sorry this was long, and sorry it wasn't even close to any subject about dating, but I really needed to get that out. Whew!!

Anyway, have a great night!!

♥LA

sometimes, change is a good thing...

Thu, 29 Jan 2009 00:17:36 GMT

Recently, my boyfriend, J, and I have been fighting.. kind of a lot. We fight over the stupidest things, like when I take something he says the wrong way and I get all mad and then start saying dumb stuff. So, as you can tell, it's usually/sometimes my own fault. I take things too seriously, or I overanalyze things, as girls tend to do.

But, for the past few days, I've been taking on a new outlook, I guess you could say. I am trying to be lighter, happier, more fun. Turn bad things into good things. When I'm about to take something offensively that I already KNOW is not to be taken in that way, I either ask the person what they meant or make a joke about it with them and end up laughing. This approach is working MUCH better than my last one. So good, in fact, that J & I have not fought since I've started doing this. Granted, it's only been a few days but, hey, I'll take what I can get. And who says it won't last longer?

So my thinking is that we all should be like this, well not like clone-type but take on a more positive perspective, stop overanalyzing things, stop taking ourselves too seriously. Life is supposed to be something fun, happy, light, yet hard and heavy and deep at the same time. But not everything has to be hard, right? Little things don't have to matter so much. I mean, why do girls tend to overanalyze things in the first place?? And why do we tend to get so mad over little things that, in the longrun, really just do not matter??

Hmm... a mystery, perhaps.

♥LA

just another day...

Mon, 26 Jan 2009 20:08:02 GMT

so today has been a pretty good day so far. school was okay.. blahh waking up early! :( haha.
J & I are good again though--like today was really good :) so..thats always a plus.
And I ate pretty healthy today & I just got done exercising. I forgot how much fun dancing to your favorite music can be--&& good exercise too!!
Now, I have to go to work, but that's alright because that means $$ in my wallet. haha. & i get to work with one of my favorite managers so that's not too bad.
I may exercise more when I get home from work later but I don't have any homework or anything so that's a very good thing!
I figured out how much money J & I need to make to pay for all of our expenses & according to what I figured out, which is all approximately right, we should definitely be okay, especially this summer because we'll be making a lot of money. YAY :) I am wayyy excited about moving out and starting my new life && everything like that. I CANNOT WAIT!!
Man, I really wanna get my nails done. I haven't gotten them done since like November I think. Ugh! I hate having ugly short nails. I can't stop biting them. I'm trying, though. It's just hard.

Well, I'm gonna go dance a bit more && then get ready for work.
Hope everyone's having a great day!

♥ LA

"the type of girl u wanna chew all of my bubblegum. im the type of girl you wanna take to yo momma house." --"bubblegum"-rasheeda. i love this song. haha. great dance song!!